Sharnie and Zak's story
We’re Sharnie and Zak, and we’re new foster carers with Foster for East Midlands Councils. We live in Nottinghamshire with our young daughter, and this year, we began our fostering journey after years of talking about it. With Foster Care Fortnight underway, we wanted to share our story in case you’re thinking about fostering, or if it’s something you’ve never considered but might be interested in.
After years of "one day we will" conversations, we finally took the leap. We’re unable to have more biological children but with plenty of love to give, we wanted to open our home to children needing safety and stability. We also wanted our daughter to experience the joys and challenges of sibling relationships such as learning to share, care, and build close bonds. Fostering provided this opportunity while making a positive impact in our community.
“Fostering isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being there for children.”
What we've learnt as new foster carers
Being first-year foster carers means we're still learning, and that's perfectly fine. We approached fostering with open hearts and a willingness to grow. Foster for East Midlands Councils has supported us through every step, providing guidance whenever needed.
The local council fostering service provides valuable training, resources, and ongoing support. Through fostering, we are connected with a supportive network of people and professionals in our area. We're never alone in this journey, which makes all the difference.
Our first placement, which was respite care over a few weekends, went surprisingly smoothly. We expected challenges like awkward silences or resistance, but instead found laughter, play, and unexpected calm. While we know not every placement will be as smooth, this experience gave us confidence to continue.
The approval process was both nerve-wracking and exciting. Through fostering, we've experienced the huge power of community and close human connection.
5 tips for prospective foster carers
- Compassion is more important than perfection.
- Flexibility matters. Every child has unique needs; being adaptable helps them feel secure.
- Communication is essential. Talk openly with your family and supervising social worker.
- Your local council is on hand to support you. Training, guidance, and resources are always available.
- Celebrate small victories. A smile or peaceful bedtime are meaningful achievements.
Take the first step this Foster Care Fortnight
Fostering grows your family in unexpected, beautiful ways while providing essential support to children who need it most. This Foster Care Fortnight, consider beginning your own journey.
For more information about Foster for East Midlands Councils, visit the website or call 0303 3132 950.
If you would like to find out more about fostering, head to the GOV.UK national postcode finder tool to find your nearest local council.
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